Dear Conscience: What is more important, appearance or personality?

What is more important, appearance or personality?
Shoulder Devil: Jill MahlerShoulder Angel: Jennifer M. Hartsock
Aw, the age old question. For me, there is nothing more attractive than a man with a plan; the end of mankind as we know it, but let’s be honest, a good man is hard to find.I guess it’s what matters to you, but I would wager to say the most important is appearance.

Think about it, you’re not looking at their big brain when they first walk by. Sure, personality keeps you interested. When the skin sags, hair departs the head and replants itself on the back and that six pack is hidden underneath a “protective covering,” all you have left is the brain… if you’re stupid.

I say trade in the old model and get yourself something you don’t mind toting around town. Life is too short to be stuck with the same person. I mean really, who wants to be around when the youth is gone and all you have left is a nag who leaks when they laugh?

I know I don’t. Iceberg ahead captain! Abandon ship!

When it comes to finding that special someone, there are certain things to look for. Strong arms to fight off anyone who gets in your way.

Ummm, that’s about it. As far as personality goes, someone who is obedient is ideal. I mean, you can’t have someone arguing with you about right and wrong, yada yada. You’ve got people to squash and countries to conquer.

Whoa, whoa, whoa, Devil, please! We live in a very different time than the cave man days! Before evolution, when our brains weren’t as developed, we depended on strong, healthy men to protect us.

The best man for the job was the best looking: big muscles, good teeth, and fewer boils.Then something magical happened. We became aware of an inner-person. There was something special shinning through our eyes and speech.

The person is no longer a noble stud with means of protecting us from enemies and providing our offspring with good genes, but a comrade both intellectually and, quite possibly, metaphysically.We are a gleaming unique essence inhibited within a physical shell. It’s not about the packaging, it’s about the candy bar.

As Lisa Unger says, “You begin to dwell in their energy, recognize the scent of their skin. You see only the essence of the person, not the shell. That’s why you can’t fall in love with beauty. You can lust after it, be infatuated by it, want to own it.

You can love it with your eyes and your body, but not your heart. And that’s why, when you really connect with a person’s inner self, any physical imperfections disappear, become irrelevant.”

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