In relationships, sometimes you can feel like your playing a numbers game. How many times a week is normal? How many days should you wait to call…wait before you say I love you? Not to mention, there is the enviable conversation in every relationship, where you are faced with revealing how many partners you have had.
In a world where a premium is placed on being open and honest, how do you know what to share about your past and what to keep to yourself? And even if you are selective about whom you invite to share your bed with, previous experiences and partners are bound to haunt you in your present. So how do you know if you are actually coming out on top?
Expressing one’s sexuality is no longer taboo. This expression is translated into our everyday life-from how much we reveal in our fashion and in conversations to how we act. We attempt to express ourselves in every conquest. It is natural and healthy to desire a streamlined relationship, where you are free to express yourself, but revealing our past fully can also become a hindrance.
As a general rule of thumb, you need to know about your partners previous encounters, at the very least how many people they have been intimate with. How else do you expect to protect yourself, if you do not know how healthy or exposed your partner is? However, the amount of information from your past you reveal or ask of your partner is in your discretion. Revealing what you like and dislike should be a welcomed topic, but steer away from making comparisons and subjecting yourself into a limited view of what you like. Each relationship provides you with the ability to discover new avenues of yourself, define yourself as a person and what kind of partner you are.
Communication is as powerful as you allow it to be. Communication can set you free from internalizing your world, but you should know how to use it. Although your past is what made you who you are, your present should take over and be your focus. The partner you are with should be your priority. This is the sacrifice every single makes when they become a couple. When you allow your partner in fully, they are more likely to feel comfortable to discuss your past and theirs, since there are no past feelings left to compete with. Allow yourself to release the ghosts of relationships past and take on those of the present and the yet to come.
