Dear Conscience: Young and In Love

Am I missing out by being in a serious relationship so young? Should I be playing the field more?
Shoulder Devil: Ashley ChristieShoulder Angel: Justin Bolger
You’re young. It’s a time to have fun and change your mind, then change it again. You have the rest of your life to pick someone and settle down. Do you really want to pick that one person right now?

Being young affords you the luxury of making mistakes. I encourage you to make as many as you can. How else will you recognize the right choice if you haven’t made a few bad ones?

Love is wasted on the young. They don’t know what they want and have an attention span of … oh … I don’t know, like two seconds. If they do ever get what they ask for they’ve already moved on.I use to know a couple of crazy kids who were madly in love with each other and thought they couldn’t live without each other. It ripped their families apart. There was yelling, and fighting, and they both died. That’s real romantic, right? I think their names were Romeo and Juliet.

Do you think if either of them thought with their heads instead of their hormones they would’ve realized that “he’s just a dude,” or “she’s just a chic.” Would they have realized that life does go on?

No, because we have role models like Bella Swan, who goes catatonic when her boyfriend moves away!

College should be about finding yourself, not the love of your life. Date, don’t commit to anything or anyone. Youth is temporary, so live it up!

Everything else is a problem for future you.

A young age is the best time to find the love of your life. By young I mean your early to mid-twenties.

It’s the time you should be really coming into your own, but at the same time you’ve still some room to grow – possibly with the love of your life. Growing together through adversity creates the strongest bonds.

If you set your mind to playing the field, you’ll likely just gloss over the one person that could truly make you happy.

I guess what I’m trying to say is keep an open mind. I understand the merits of both frames of thought. It just depends on who you are. It’s a matter of knowing your own relationship.

Ponder a few questions about you and yours:
– Are you both happy?
– Can you see both of being happy five years from now? Ten years? Fifty years?
– Would you change anything about him/her?
– Are you more emotionally involved with a friend of yours?
– Do you fight often? Is it over ridiculous stuff?

There are countless other questions you could ask yourself. The point I’m trying to make is you should simply be aware of who you are, who they are, and who you are together. Locking yourself in a mindset on either extreme will steer you wrong. Self-awareness is the only answer. Good luck out there!

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